I went through my husband’s phone when he started to become very moody and distant. We had been married for seven years and I never felt the need to question our stability until this point. When I went through his phone I found a conversation between him and his friend Sam.
The texts were saying that they loved each other and wanted to be together. My husband had texted him saying that he wanted to be with him and leave me, about how they couldn’t even spend a day away from each other. It was utterly shocking, especially because I never knew that he was interested in fellas, let alone his best friend who I been out with so many times before and entertained him in my house.
Our sex life had never given me an indication that he liked men. Very “vanilla” not what I imagine gay men to desire. If you get my drift. I confronted him and he denied it. But two days later he left me for Sam.
People ask me do I regret snooping and yes I do in a small way but if I hadn’t how long would we have lived this lie? My ex and Sam are very happy now, I run into them occasionally at mutual friends gathering. I enjoy seeing them squirm I admit it. Me….well, it will take a long time for me to trust another man.
It’s not only the infidelity but also a knock on my womanhood.